“Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement” explores a new framework / mental model / whatever you wanna call it… that frees you from the futility of unproductive conflict and pointless arguments. Sign up here to receive a free chapter from the book where I talk about why I wrote the book and what you will get out of it.
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When you buy the book from your favorite bookseller and forward your purchase receipt to
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- Disagreement Template w/ Examples. A simple template for having productive disagreements with several real examples from the book and from life.
- Printable Reference Guides. You’ll get some downloadable PDFs with all the guidelines for productive disagreement and the cognitive bias cheat sheet.
- Companion Reading Guide. A series of emails with additional insights that complement the 8 tips given in the book.
- Cognitive Bias Desktop Wallpaper. Get a light and dark mode downloadable wallpaper version of the popular Cognitive Bias Codex.
- A 3-Month Free Trial of 750words.com. 750 Words is a private journal to accompany the topics covered in the book’s first two chapters: watch how anxiety sparks, and talk to your internal voices. Normally $5/month, you’ll get the first 3 months free, which will get you at least to the Albatross badge (30 days of writing) and almost all the way to the Phoenix badge (100 days of writing).
What is the book about?
It’s a light read filled with real stories and 100 of my own illustrations. Click to get a little illustrated tour of the chapters:
An illustrated tour of the book
A selection of illustrations from "Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement"
Here’s a clip from an interview I did with Rebel Wisdom about the philosophy of productive disagreement:
What some very kind people have said
“This is a life-changing book. Read it three times and then give a copy to anyone you care about. It will make things better.”
— Seth Godin, author of This is Marketing
“This is the perfect book at the perfect time to bring some sanity back into disagreements. Buster Benson unveils a new framework for arguing that helps you understand your biases and show other people theirs in a nonconfrontational way.”
— Annie Duke, author of Thinking in Bets
“Productive disagreeing is the most underrated life skill you can build. Buster Benson turns everything you know about arguing on its head. Before reading this book, I never thought I’d be looking forward to my next disagreement.”
— Ev Williams, founder of Medium and cofounder of Twitter
“In this lively, accessible, and practical guide, Buster Benson offers us eight valuable principles for turning rude arguments or suppressed differences into dynamic conversations that illuminate, connect, and yield better results for all. With Benson’s help, let the arguing begin!”
— William Ury, coauthor of Getting to Yes and author of Getting to Yes with Yourself
“With provocative ideas — and the brain science to back them up — Why Are We Yelling? offers fresh approaches to conflict and connection.”
— Sarah Milstein, author of The Twitter Book
“Conflict can be ugly. But if you follow the precepts of Buster Benson, you’ll discover that it’s also inevitable, necessary, and even helpful. Everybody can learn how to argue better and more productively with this provocative book.”
— Daniel H. Pink, author of When and To Sell Is Human
“I’m a sucker for frameworks, and this is one of the greats. You’ll learn to turn the messy, frustrating, emotional experience of arguing into a fine art.”
— Nir Eyal, author of Hooked and Indistractable
“In today’s polarized climate, ‘productive disagreement’ often feels like an oxymoron. Benson brilliantly challenges this idea, offering a thoughtful guidebook on how to lower our voices, tolerate tension, and have the constructive dialogue our world needs.”
— General Stanley McChrystal, author of Leaders and Team of Teams
“Buster Benson’s methods are instantly actionable, his writing is funny and relatable, and his book is the ideal companion to Difficult Conversations.”
— Adam Grant, author of Originals and Give and Take, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife
“Reading Why Are We Yelling? is like having your most calm, level-headed friend explain how you might diffuse a tense situation in your life and work. I especially recommend this book to anyone who has ever tried to ‘win’ an argument only to end up frustrated with the results.”
— Jason Shellen, co-founder of Google Reader, Boxer, and Brizzly