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Author of Why Are We Yelling? — a book about the art of productive disagreement. I run Previously product at Patreon, Slack, Twitter, and Amazon.

I’ll come back to this but for now just a quick definition of a word that doesn’t exist that I’ll be using a lot:

Reconstellate: v. the potentially foolish act of dismantling various constellations (not only of stars but also of identity and worldview) in order to create space for new constellations to be formed.

Connecting dots from the past

I’ve reviewed my life around the time of my birthday now for 15 years. It’s always a bit of a challenge to review my life as it’s happening… it forces me to create a narrative of sorts even as I am a character within the…

Also known as: Ursa Major, The Great Bear, The Larger Bear. Part of it (the tail and back of the bear) are also popularly known as The Big Dipper, The Ladle, The Wain (Wagon), The Plow. In Roman times it was known as Septentrio (seven plow oxen); in Chinese astrology it is known as Tseih Sing (the government) and Pih Tow (the Northern Measure); in Hindu astrology it is The Seven Sages.

Ursa Major becomes the Chimera

Ursa Major/The Big Dipper is a sky neighbor of Ursa Minor/The Little Dipper, and they’re frequently paired with one another in stories. Even though I’m not pairing their…

Setting context for this post is going to be tough. It’s gonna get weird but I try to tie it all together into a useful proposal by the end. Bear with me!

I tossed this idea out the other day:

This is an idea that’s been developing in the back of my head, in very nebulous regions of my notes and thoughts, after a number of long-running themes have converged for me. My book on productive disagreement is out, and the 3 years I spent researching and writing it have really crystallized for me both the urgent need for…


A tiny snake woke up in a chaotic and dark forest. It asked, “What am I?”

A spider, hovering over it with hungry eyes, said, “You’re a part of the forest. Go back to sleep.”

The snake fell back asleep.

It’s difficult to wake up.


A tiny snake woke up in a chaotic and dark forest. It asked, “What am I?”

A spider said, “You‘re a part of the dark forest. Here let me help you go back to sleep.”

The snake smelled the warm ripe breath of the giant spider, and was repulsed. …

Buster: For my new year’s resolution, I’m starting a low-quality, short-lived blog with musings on a question that might not have an answer:

Kevin: This reminds me of this post on “gardening games”:

Exploration game: player fights / loots their way through the game, and when they leave the environment is left less interesting from them being there.

Gardening game: the more time a player spends in an area, the more interesting that area becomes. The game is infinite play, ambiguous, and the environment isn’t 100% controllable, only influencable.

I’m thinking exploration games are a byproduct of the hero’s journey…

Dear Nobody,

Our fixation on the Hero’s Journey is causing problems. I propose that we look for alternatives.

The alternative I’m looking for isn’t the Fool’s Journey, because in most Hero’s Journey stories the hero starts as a fool.

And I’m not looking for the Anti-Hero’s Journey either because that’s just a Hero’s Journey story flipped around. Every hero needs an anti-hero, and vice versa.

The problem I have with the Hero’s Journey is that the hero is biased to only address problems that they can solve, and to deny that anything else is a problem.

What if not all…

Disclaimer: My plan is to share unpolished notes on progress at least weekly while building 750 Words V2. It’s going to be filled with details that you may find incomprehensible, boring, or completely misguided. Lots of details that should be included will be missing, while at the same time many details that could have been left out will be included. I’m sharing it here without attempting to make it entertaining or worth your time at all, because that would take too long for me to curate, and I just want to share it in case someone is willing to do…

A 1-month streak on 750 Words. was originally launched on December 15th, 2009. The blog post I wrote a few days after launching it accidentally got deleted many years ago, but I found it on the WaY bAcK mAcHiNe. I launched it 4 days after thinking of the idea:

I thought of building this little tool (let me check my wiki) on December 11th. I was still thinking (and writing) about it on December 12th, so I bought the domain. On December 13th I used one of my stub Rails site bundles to get the basics up and running (Facebook Connect, jQuery, Compass) on my…

Illustration: Siggi Odds

Think back to a recent argument. Now put aside the argument itself and think about the environment that the argument happened within. Was there anything about the environment that encouraged or discouraged different fruit of disagreement to emerge?

What was the power dynamic?

What were the expectations for what had to come out of the argument?

Was there any additional hidden context that influenced the argument without making itself explicitly known (like cultural norms, shared history, the medium of communication it was happening in, the constraints of time, etc.)?

We like to think of our arguments as existing outside the…

I had a weird thought.

Thinking Fast and Well

Thinking happens at the level of neurons, synapses, and neurotransmitters at approximately 10 quadrillion (10 million billion) bits per second within each of our heads. That’s pretty cool. What’s even cooler is that this thinking happens at multiple different levels of abstraction that allow slower, more deliberate thinking to keep an eye on the faster, more reactive thinking.

For example: we can think from part of ourselves (like the angry part, or the professional part, or the sad part), we can think as a whole person, we can think as a member of one of…

Buster Benson

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